Her reply to my question was if she received a score of 65% or less on a test. The activity she was working on was not a test, but instead was walking her through how to interpret tone and mood when reading a passage or story. It was all about her understanding of the concept, not whether she was going to pass or fail, but failing was all she could focus on.
Even if she were to score 65% or less on the activity it by no means is automatically a fail. Instead it means she needs to keep practising. I see this attitude all of the time in students who are so afraid of failing that they will not try, or when they do try and do not see the results they expected simply give up.
My daughter does this all of the time when it comes to math. She is so afraid of getting a question wrong that she stresses herself out to the point of tears. Some may think that perhaps I am putting pressure on her to achieve perfection. This could be further from the truth as I understand all too well how math can be frustrating and confusing!
All I ask of her and anyone whom I have as a student is that they try and keep on trying. It is ok to be wrong, making mistakes is one of the ways in how we learn. It certainly does not mean we have failed. Maybe as a society we are failing because of how negative we perceive failure to be!
Thought of the day: If someone owns a piece of land, do they own it all the way to the center of the earth?
Quote of the day: The greatest glory in living lies not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall.- Ralph Waldo Emerson