In my case it took a bit of both to deal with the separation and now impending divorce from my husband. A lot of soul searching, self-reflection and analysis plus a lot of counselling got me through this dark phase of my life. Certainly this is what a lot of other people in similar situations have gone through, but what really assisted me in finding happiness and peace with my new life were words said by my mother.
I am fairly certain she will not even remember saying this to me but it stuck in my head and had a profound effect on the way I viewed my new life. She said, "Jamie, your book is not completed yet, it's just that chapter in your book has ended". I do not know if she came up with that on her own or if she heard it somewhere else, but it is those words that changed how I viewed and subsequently decided to live my life going forward as a single mom.
It has not always been easy and there will always be hurdles to cross because that is how life is. As long as we keep in mind that our books have not been finished yet and that we can continue writing more chapters, for me, life has a lot yet to contribute to my book. My hope is that those who read this will realize that their books have not been completed yet and that there are still chapters to be written. It is ultimately up to you what will be written in those chapters!
Thought of the day: What 3 things would you bring to a deserted Island? Why doesn't anyone say BOAT?
Quote of the day: By three methods we may learn wisdom: First by reflection which is noblest; Second by imitation which is easiest; and Third by experience which is the bitterest. Confucius